tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544117397812334551.post3168405553272650917..comments2022-11-05T07:02:42.330-07:00Comments on Otherwise Healthy: What to Say to a Cancer PatientUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544117397812334551.post-49722759163718464872011-09-12T20:35:05.895-07:002011-09-12T20:35:05.895-07:00Patti,
I hope today went well and that you're...Patti, <br />I hope today went well and that you're resting and feeling OK. This is interesting, the whole notion of how to talk to a cancer patient. On the one hand, the non-cancer friend wants to ask and talk about it out of curiosity, empathy, sheer caring for the other person -- but on the other hand, the non-cancer person doesn't want the cancer person to think that's all he/she sees now: a cancer person. <br />(I'm going to switch to first-person here because this third-person thing isn't really working out). <br />I know that your illness is consuming for you, your mom, dad, brother and Lisa. I'm sure it (and your mom's cancer) are dominant in your thoughts during every waking moment. So should I, as an outsider, talk about it and make you think about it even more? Or should I, as an outsider/friend give you a break from thinking about it (by not asking/commenting/acting as though I think you're not thinking about it)? I think that's why people avoid talking about illness head-on -- they don't know if it's what's wanted or not. <br />So it's great to know that you're open to talking about it all. As someone who's really appreciating you're blog -- I'll keep reading to hear as much as you want to share. Healing thoughts to you...<br />DebDebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04996729865451371958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5544117397812334551.post-79941264316097371562011-09-09T10:47:21.403-07:002011-09-09T10:47:21.403-07:00I'm totally having a sappy kind of day, I thin...I'm totally having a sappy kind of day, I think the sun did it to me. It struck me today that something as simple as seeing the sun has made me extraordinarily happy. Because I don't think we've seen it for a solid 10 days. Which then made me grateful for something else I take for granted - my health. Which then of course made me think of you, and I was happy to see a post from you! And the very last line in small type is why I love you guys and am hi-fiving from afar. XOXOJonesyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13087976657099049385noreply@blogger.com